I came across this great article on helicopter parenting around the world – “A Cure for Hyper-Parenting”
Apparently, it’s not just Americans who are hyper parents!
In short, here’s what the NY Times article by Pamela Druckerman instructs us about good parenting:
1. Matthias Doepke and Fabrizio Zilibotti say intensive parenting springs from “rising inequality, because parents know there’s a bigger payoff for people with lots of education and skills.” Maybe – I haven’t done a lot of thinking on this. I read that this phenomenon is creating an even greater gap between the “haves” and “have nots” who can’t afford tutors, test prep, private sports coaches….
2. People around the world are breeding later in life, when they’re richer and more grateful, so the whole parenting experience becomes “hallowed”. Makes sense – it also stands to reason that having kids after “achieving” in the workplace means there’s one more place to show off our “achievement-driven” sensibilities…
Here’s the advice Ms. Druckerman gives in the article- many of which are cited from other sources. She did a great job of putting gathering some useful nuggets:
- Keep Calm and Parent On — expect more from your kids – even though it can be messy
- Kid parties should be DROP-OFFS – use the time for yourself! Between the mid-1990s and 2008, college-educated American moms began spending more than nine additional hours per week on child care; this came directly out of their leisure time.
- Enjoy the MOMENT- don’t always push for a Harvard degree. Said a better way: “total commitment to the process, total equanimity about the outcome.”
- Most parenting crises are caused by exhaustion – try sleeping more and attacking issues when calm and rested.
- Have less stuff- the more you have, the more you have to organize, take care of, repair, and think about.
- Work-life balance is nearly impossible to achieve- FORGIVE YOURSELF!
- Teach emotional intelligence to your kids- and live it yourself- size up the other individual before you care what they think of you!
- Enact the Mandela rule – “You can get what you want by showing people ordinary respect.”
I love this:
Scandinavians complain of “curling parents,” a reference to the sport in which you frantically scrub the ice to let a stone glide across it.
Maybe even a better analogy than a helicopter?!?!
I don’t know how many applications have been entered into the system for the CPS selective enrollment freshman class of 2018 – I’m sure, though, it’s a new record. This past Saturday, January 25, was the last date for 8th graders to take the exam, 1 of 3 criteria used in the admissions process. (Select this link to get FAQs on the CPS Selective Enrollment Process)
The selective enrollment high school experience is the finest education opportunity in the state of Illinois.
As many of you know, I’m the Chairperson for the Friends of Jones parent organization. I’m a huge fan of Chicago Public Schools, and more specifically, the teachers and administrations who go above and beyond to provide a great educational experience for our kids.
Jones College Prep has become one of the premier selective enrollment schools, indeed, one of the best schools in the state of Illinois. (It’s the first CPS school to win the Dept of Education’s Blue Ribbon Award.) When the new Jones College Prep building was under construcxtion this year, the South Loop neighbors raised concerns about local education opportunities, and Mayor Emanuel answered by creating the CTE program for engineering/law. Students apply for 75 seats in the freshman class each year that offer pre-engineering/pre-law educational experiences – in addition to the honors-only college prep classes in this world-class facility.
Having worked closely with department chairs Chuck Trott (engineering) and Christy Gerst (law), I cannot image finer leaders and educators for the talented and fortunate students who are selected into their programs. Students won’t learn until March if they’re accepted, but I want to say, “Congratulations!” now to those who will soon learn that they have been accepted into this fine program.
I understand that over 4000 applications were submitted for these 75 slots. WOW!!!!
Granted, most have probably ALSO applied for the general selective enrollment seats, but I’m delighted that Chicago is already recognizing what an amazing program Jones is offering.
Jones College Prep used to be the best kept secret in Chicago education, but it’s a secret NO MORE!
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The selective enrollment process is very stressful, and perhaps not the best method for assigning 8th graders to a Chicago High School (there’s probably no PERFECT method for all– but let’s keep trying!!!!) . I’m sending a virtual hug to all parents with a message, “Hang in there! It’s going to be okay! It truly does work out in the end!!!”
I applaud Chicago residents who are leading grass roots efforts to improve neighborhood high schools — kudos to Amy Williamson who’s leading the charge at Amundsen, and others who are working to make their local high schools a viable option for Chicago students and parents.
Today, more people are choosing to live in Chicago and raise a family. It may not be simple, but I sincerely believe it is a magnificent opportunity for raising our children to become the finest adults anywhere. They’re independent, flexible, aware, open-minded, confident, and unflappable. They go to college with color-blindness, street smarts, AND a great education.
When asked where they’re from, they say, “Chicago!”, and they clarify that it’s the CITY – not a suburb. Their new friend is envious and awestruck that our child has climbed the highest mountain – he/she has a great education, a great social experience, and world-class cultural upbringing. These Chicagoans are truly accomplished, well-rounded, and confident. They have the world by the tail.
I’m so glad I chose to raise my kids in the city!
Good luck, Chicago 8th Graders –
May the odds be with you!
Saturday, January 11, is the date many 8th graders will be taking the Chicago Catholic High School Entrance Exam.
While CPS offers several dates to take the public school exam, the parochial test is only offered on January 11, 2014. Eighth graders and their families decide which school to go to on that date – students may only test for one school.
Here are links for several popular Chicago Catholic High Schools:
Select this link to find a Chicago Catholic High School
Chicago Public School applications for high school (selective enrollment, IB, CTE, and magnet) were due in December, 2013 for enrollment in August, 2014. Two more exam dates are available – January 11 and 25, 2013.
For information about CPS high school enrollment options, select this link.
Notifications for CPS high school admissions will be mailed no later than February 21, 2014, according to the Office of Access and Enrollment.
Catholic School acceptance letters go out February 14.
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